tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post125922820599106078..comments2023-08-23T05:17:47.225-07:00Comments on No Hands But Ours: the blog: That Rare, Highly Desirable Commodity: Me.Stefaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15929186829748543826noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-28896109903143944822010-03-30T11:23:50.386-07:002010-03-30T11:23:50.386-07:00WHOAH! I could have written this post! In fact, ...WHOAH! I could have written this post! In fact, I HAVE walked into a room to do a quick something to then turn around a trip on a kid! Thanks so much for posting this!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15619252427094046804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-8992949587105815722010-03-29T06:47:25.684-07:002010-03-29T06:47:25.684-07:00I can SO relate to this! I find that although I am...I can SO relate to this! I find that although I am a snuggler, it's almost always more pleasant when it's on my terms. When I'm not feeling particularly snuggly, it's VERY difficult to do... sometimes I do my best, and others I have to give myself a break and explain to my kiddos that mama needs a little space. For me, it's a much tougher road to navigate with my adopted kiddos b/c I so badly don't want them to feel unloved.Stefaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929186829748543826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-39608721108560100972010-03-28T18:25:45.384-07:002010-03-28T18:25:45.384-07:00I really appreciated reading this. I had one kid ...I really appreciated reading this. I had one kid who would only sleep if she was laying on my chest and one who never EVER wanted to be hugged or snuggled for the first 18 months after we adopted her. It's much easier to bond with an affectionate child. At least it was for me. But it was EXHAUSTING and I know you can relate to that! <br /><br />The first five months we were home with our first daughter (the one who slept on my chest for those first 5 months), she insisted on sitting on my lap while I used the toilet. Sure, I *could* have put her down but I found that it was extremely difficult to answer the call of nature when my 15 month old daughter was screaming hysterically at my feet.<br /><br />In time, it gets easier. At least it has for us. And one day I'm betting that our girls will roll their eyes when we dare to ask them for just one hug. When that day comes, I think we'll remember the early months we spent with them and we'll smile.<br /><br />:)<br /><br />Donna<br />Our Blog: <a href="http://2happy.typepad.com" rel="nofollow">Double Happiness!</a>Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15717351421043156637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-37619879239548906192010-03-28T10:59:28.886-07:002010-03-28T10:59:28.886-07:00It's like you wrote my thoughts. I have anoth...It's like you wrote my thoughts. I have another 3, plus 1 adopted 6 year old.Soojung Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04357470237627789548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-41899702998973800812010-03-28T07:56:27.106-07:002010-03-28T07:56:27.106-07:00Lola, have I told you lately how much I love readi...Lola, have I told you lately how much I love reading your posts????<br /><br />My four bio kids are all snugglers. I have never been. I had to learn to sit and snuggle long before Cheeky arrived. Which is good for both of us. Cheeky always wants to be in my lap or holding my hand or leaning over my shoulder. The patience wears thin, but the love grows. You capture that truth beautifully in this post.Shirlee McCoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10662958794531584917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-37074039659050173452010-03-28T07:47:57.466-07:002010-03-28T07:47:57.466-07:00My family and I are in the process of adopting so ...My family and I are in the process of adopting so I've taken in every word you wrote. I'd like to think of myself of a snuggler but I'm afraid as my boys have aged I'm more of a doer. So, I'm looking to my formal education as a Lactation Consultant for insight. When you breastfeed a newborn, you are forced to sit down and snuggle with your newborn 8-12 times in 24 hours. They start out nursing for hours, then as they get older it's only 5-10 minutes. I'm wondering if giving our adoptive children that frequent snuggle time they need and then gradually weaning them to shorter snuggle times would still meet their needs, yet maintain a doers sanity? Since we haven't brought our baby girl home this is just me thinking out loud, totally lacking the wisdom of experience. Thanks for getting me thinking! :)<br />God's blessings,<br />Sarah :DSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14219964669227820696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-61432481127643454532010-03-28T06:24:52.827-07:002010-03-28T06:24:52.827-07:00We just adopted a 2.5 year old in November 09 and ...We just adopted a 2.5 year old in November 09 and I am so feeling you on this. He is recently just wanting to snuggle and love and be held, which is great....for a while. He is always underfoot. We are actually going to put our house on the market, because I never realized how tiny our kitchen is until I had to do everything with him between my legs. I am like you--a doer. I like taking care of them, cooking, cleaning, taking them to activities. It is HARD for me just to sit and snuggle. I do it as much as I can, but it isn't always my first choice.everythingismeowsomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06671155513531459483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1812829745872292085.post-30317586104658325522010-03-28T06:08:04.359-07:002010-03-28T06:08:04.359-07:00This so resonates with me, especially since my dau...This so resonates with me, especially since my daughter and I both have sensory issues, only she is sensory-seeking and I am over-sensitive.<br /><br />She was a bottomless well for years. She still is, to some extent. It got to the point where I finally cut myself some slack, realizing that she needed to figure out how to meet some of those needs herself. Sounds harsh, I know, but not so much when you realize I held her for about three to four hours a day our first 18 months together, carried her during my chores and even co-slept. And then I held her for about 1.5 to 2 hours a day for the following two years after that.a Tonggu Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365812914466181060noreply@blogger.com