In the interest of this site, I took down the post about the "adult adoptee".
I would like to say that I am no expert and as I said in the original post, "maybe I'm naive and am missing a valid point".
for those of you who know me, you know that I am the first to raise my hand and get in line, eager to learn. i love that adult adoptee sites exist and that there is so much literature for me to delve into... i'm eager to understand.
i am for adoptee rights and understand much of their perspective. i stand by my belief though that ultimately we do have a choice in how we move, breathe, and live in this world and that what we suffer has the power to transform us - if we let it- for the better.
i appreciate the heated discussion. i'm glad we're talking to each other. i don't think it's necessary to be disrespectful. i'm just one little human in a large, complicated, puzzle. like you- all of you who commented- i struggle to find the right balance for my daughter and want to give her the best opportunities possible. i want to embrace every part of who she is- grieving, joyful- no matter what. i want to understand what she may face as she grows.
thank you for letting me share a bit of Hopgood's story with you. as i said in the post, i realize her case might be rare... but it's good to know there is a wide range in the human spectrum of our life experiences.
i hold no ill feelings toward anyone who slammed me. what's the point of being here if not to hash out our opinions? i just hope we can come to a common ground without continuing to flame one another, and realize that we're all just muddling through this in the best way we know how.
i'll be the first to hold out my hand.... and I apologize for offending anyone. i will never claim to understand the challenges the adult adoptee faces, i'm not one. but again- i will continue to try to bridge that gap as much as it can be bridged.